Feeling Discombobulated In Life?

Life sometimes bugs you. People agitate you and you just want to slap them but know it is not the right thing to do, and it would probably cause more trouble. What does it mean to be agitated? The dictionary gives several meanings - flustered, ruffled, perturbed, disturbed, unsettled, bothered, troubled, jittery, and beside oneself. But the one word that jumped off the page was “discombobulated.” Not a word used in daily conversation, but a word that describes the confusion and agitation that comes in many situations.

Discombobulated is a unique word to spell and pronounce. It represents how unique and difficult this journey can be when life does not go as planned. Even as you begin to live in the motto “it is what it is,” new situations occur that trouble you. You feel unsettled as you attempt to figure out this next thing in life. You try to make sense and reason out of things that do not make sense.

When you are discombobulated, you are confused and troubled. You know life will never be the same. The unsettling is more within you. Your soul begins to feel the depth of change, and you long for peace to reside deep within. You are unsure who you are and who you are becoming. You may not even recognize yourself in the mirror or how you are currently existing. Your head knows there is more to life than just existing, but your heart struggles with letting go and releasing the past. You become irritated at others who have the life you desire, but it seems impossible to smooth out this rough patch of life.

You get perturbed and have had to accept some things that will never change in life. Some people in your life will always be the way they are. They irritate you but you still love them. You cannot change other people, and they deal with life in a totally different way than you do. Because your lives intersect, they cause some deep emotional disturbances in you. It is releasing their control over your feelings. People are who they are, and it is not your responsibility to fix them or get them to fit into the boundaries of the life you have set.

This unsettledness seeks calmness and peace. It is changing your focus from the pain and negativity and finding something to be thankful and grateful for and settle your soul. You cannot change your past, but you can accept it happened and release yourself to live in the present. Turn yourself around. Stop focusing on the past. Be grateful for the memories and the foundation. It is grounding yourself in your foundation to give you a footing into the present.

It is accepting it is OK to be who you are and that you are not responsible for everyone’s life. You do not need to be perfect or meet the expectations of others. You begin to settle when you forgive yourself, let go of unrealistic assumptions, and actually live your own life not how society or others want you to live. Let go of being discomboluated and live in the freedom of life.

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Elaine J. Sturtz

Living In The Different